tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post4656276623738702121..comments2024-03-28T11:17:30.734+00:00Comments on duck in a dress: Mothering Sunday and Infertilityduck in a dresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08471749818455756871noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-59233724467275957442015-03-26T08:56:13.288+00:002015-03-26T08:56:13.288+00:00You don't sound bitter at all, Louisa. It is h...You don't sound bitter at all, Louisa. It is hard when Mother's/Father's day/Christmas/First day at school comes up as people put up all their photos on FB. On these days I don't bother going on to have a look. It is strange how just a few miles can change how many cycles you get. Up here you get 2 cycles now as it was changed last year from the three that we got but I do agree that's it's unfair that it can vary so much between where people live and that there should be a standard amount.<br /><br />Sending you much love xxDenise Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09368377741403294248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-57533182610145862862015-03-21T11:35:34.791+00:002015-03-21T11:35:34.791+00:00I am now concerned this was an inappropriate respo...I am now concerned this was an inappropriate response to your post, and that perhaps I've made it all about me. If so, apologies, feel free to delete it. I have yet to work out how to talk about this in a context appropriate way.Sarangahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03545162612237984546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-62476623188890258172015-03-20T14:05:40.911+00:002015-03-20T14:05:40.911+00:00Can't really say anything that would help your...Can't really say anything that would help your situation and it is so annoying that there are some people who have children who really should not be parents at all. Infertility is not something I have any experience of but I can empathise with you and appreciate how difficult it must be for you and your husband in particularly as you do not have a good relationship with your mother. I do hope that if you are still pinning your hopes on IVF it works for you very soon or adoption if that is the path you decide to go down. I am assuming you work but if not you could try volunteering at your local primary school which would give you some of the experience you need to help with an adoption application. As you say it is extremely unfair as none of us who are lucky enough to be able to conceive naturally have to jump through any of the hoops infertile couples have to. <br /><br />As for facebook I totally agree that there is no need to plaster messages all over it and luckily my daughters agree. I would never dream of putting a Happy Mothers Day message to my mum on facebook, she gets a card, flowers and a visit or a phone call as we live a long way away. Same with my daughters, one of which was completely amazed that some of her friends were putting long winded messages for their one year olds on there who obviously would not even be able to read them! Julie from Cornwallnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-84297030004273326682015-03-20T13:53:38.149+00:002015-03-20T13:53:38.149+00:00I want to send you some support and love, I want t...I want to send you some support and love, I want to send you something to know there are people out there that support you, care for you and feel for you. I can't speak from experience so I'm trying to speak from empathy. I hope you two managed to have a nice day despite everything. I hope you continue trying and looking at your options and one day get everything you want! <br /><br />Adoption criteria has always surprised me... surely someone who wants to love a child and is generally an ok person is enough. That's more than a lot of children have already! <br /><br />Definitely stay away from Facebook... god I hate that place. <br /><br />Also, definitely be bitter, be anything you want, your feelings are as valid whether they are bitter or not! <br /><br />Sending you love!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-47384790659914980662015-03-19T17:23:23.993+00:002015-03-19T17:23:23.993+00:00Jenny J sent this through to me saying it would re...Jenny J sent this through to me saying it would resonate. It did.<br />I'm not infertile, I successfully carried my son to 37 weeks when he suddenly, for no reason and with no warning, died, last year.<br />I cannot imagine what it is like to be infertile and I am aware of how extraordinarily lucky I am to have got to full term with my son, and I am so grateful of the time I had with him. When I hear of other parents who didn't get that, my heart breaks for you. I don't believe in a pain heirarchy - I don't think my pain is worse than yours. Not having your own child, for whatever reason, is horrible, and heartbreaking and deeply deeply unfair.<br />Survival of the fittest and natural selection my arse. Not when people don't do the right things in pregnancy and then neglect their children. (I am bitter, very very bitter).<br />Thank you for writing that bereaved parents are parents too, so many people don't seem to get that.<br />I hope you get your baby. And yes, Mother's Day can do one. Father's Day I have yet to encounter as we weren't in the right headzone last year to notice it. I suspect I'll hate everyone on that day too.Sarangahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03545162612237984546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-25464267917461190592015-03-19T13:25:52.294+00:002015-03-19T13:25:52.294+00:00You don't sound bitter at all, Louisa.
Sendi...You don't sound bitter at all, Louisa. <br /><br />Sending you all the positive thoughts and best wishes!<br />:-)<br /><a href="http://www.lifesopenpages.blogspot.co.uk" rel="nofollow">Life’s Open Pages</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-20185291721436949632015-03-19T12:57:20.829+00:002015-03-19T12:57:20.829+00:00Oh Facebleurgh can do one. Thinking of you lovely ...Oh Facebleurgh can do one. Thinking of you lovely one xxJenny Kinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03466945756956207551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-20742725691612762162015-03-18T23:35:11.990+00:002015-03-18T23:35:11.990+00:00Love you Louisa <3
Theres so much more I coul...Love you Louisa <3 <br /><br />Theres so much more I could say towards this, but I'll leave it at a Happy Belated Mothers day to you.<br /><br />xoDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08983753502836876379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-9681984241849525712015-03-18T22:25:44.969+00:002015-03-18T22:25:44.969+00:00I completely agree that it should be fair - how bi...I completely agree that it should be fair - how bizarre that only a few miles makes a massive difference. You don't sound bitter at all; you actually presented it very fairly. <br /><br /><a href="http://lizziedailyblog.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Lizzie Dripping</a>Lizzie Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07480551261992293859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-15029447906048907452015-03-18T20:52:47.652+00:002015-03-18T20:52:47.652+00:00You don't sound bitter, you just sound like yo...You don't sound bitter, you just sound like you really care about this. I hope and pray you get to be the wonderful mother you deserve to be. I had a work colleague who had various rounds of IVF which didn't work. The process of adoption took a good 3-4 years and it was horrid for her, they were so probing. She ended up with 2 sisters and subsequently ended up with their little brother a year later which I know was a big shock to the system. It seems unfair when people can pop them out like anything and those who really care have difficulties. xxKezziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15705356707599121605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-64176962235210324562015-03-18T20:05:48.114+00:002015-03-18T20:05:48.114+00:00I agree with Sarah and Saskia, you don't sound...I agree with Sarah and Saskia, you don't sound bitter at all (although you have every right to be). A number of my close friends have battled with infertility and IVF, to varying degrees of success, and it massively sucks that the system is so unfair. I know that for them it added a whole extra layer of stress that they really didn't need.jbistheinitialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17868282285690501258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-43829302736437078782015-03-18T20:04:09.656+00:002015-03-18T20:04:09.656+00:00Sending you all of my best wishes and positive tho...Sending you all of my best wishes and positive thoughts Xxfloral and featherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07410908802672862829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-74264002950882894952015-03-18T10:36:34.963+00:002015-03-18T10:36:34.963+00:00Louisa you really don't sound bitter, the syst...Louisa you really don't sound bitter, the system is just crap and unfair. I really, truly hope and believe you will be a great mother one day, no matter in what sense of the word <3Saskianoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-80452543272036785152015-03-18T08:15:23.937+00:002015-03-18T08:15:23.937+00:00You don't sound bitter; you sound tired. I wis...You don't sound bitter; you sound tired. I wish there was something more useful I could say. xSarah Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06123634132136877282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-17394111542450340682015-03-17T22:49:42.947+00:002015-03-17T22:49:42.947+00:00You there, sending you all the love. Facebum shoul...You there, sending you all the love. Facebum should be avoided at all costs, it's one big game of one upmanship and no one needs that. <br />It's a testament to your awesomeness that you turned this into a positive helpful post.<br />M xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01888542619720840258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4213434736760962617.post-50518717353432359322015-03-17T22:06:30.764+00:002015-03-17T22:06:30.764+00:00Louisa you are a darling and I cross my fingers fo...Louisa you are a darling and I cross my fingers for you daily xxSamanthahttp://www.everybitsamantha.comnoreply@blogger.com